Miss Joan Clayton...sad to say I've always connected to her the most out of all the characters on Girlfriends ever since I was younger. She was goofy, intelligent, a designated fashionista and a hopeless romantic. Friendship to her meant the world and she just made me laugh when other people would cringe at her sense of humor. Joan was the "Oreo" the token black girl who spoke proper and was a little eccentric so she was associated with "acting white". She was so concerned with finding her soul mate, essentially the one person she could happily spend the rest of her life with and it's unfortunate that the show got cancelled before we could see Joan walk down the aisle. Joan was a successful lawyer, she made junior partner by age 29 and was working her way to partner when she quit to pursue her dreams in opening a restaurant. I also admired this about Joan, sometimes our lives take different career paths than what we initially planned and instead of being complacent with her status at the law firm she went on to pursue her own happiness. I watch Joan and see myself gradually morphing into her. I know she's a fictional character, and it's not like I want this to happen but it is. At the point in my life right now, I see myself becoming a lawyer in a few years but If law isn't for me, I won't hesitate to pursue whatever career goals I may have. I am also a hopeless romantic, in my head I dream about the wedding, the soul mate, the boyfriend, love, I'm a pisces what do you expect? We imagine a bunch of things all the time...I watched an episode today where Joan sinked to an all time low, when she went on a date with a man who lived with his mother. She tried to build a relationship with him based on both of them loving to shop at Cosco's and it went down hill from there. I thought this was hilarious because I've sunk to some all time lows in choosing some of the guys that I've dated; But recently I've made a vow to myself never to do it again...As a result of this epic fail attempt at dating Joan exerted her energy into running a marathon, and I'm exerting my energy into my future. I always knew I would turn out to be one of these Joan type women. I remember the first time I saw "Brown Sugar" I told myself "Your going to be Sydney" I believed this because she was a career oriented women who had everything in her life except "HipHop", the love of her life. She was one of those self-motivated women who preferred a massager over a man. Although this sounds very similar to the way I live my life now I hope with all my heart that I don't get too caught up in career goals because I also want the family, similar to Joan's goals.
Joan met Brock her "soul mate "and later decided he wasn't the one because he didn't want children. Personally I loved Brock for Joan, he was masculine, sexy, confident and he knew exactly what he wanted. One of my biggest fears in life is making that same mistake Joan did. One of the best advice I tell my friends and myself is "Don't let real love pass you by." For some people Love is feeling that they never felt or will never feel. I fortunately know what real love feels like and I also know what it is to see real love pass you by. I don't ever want this to happen to me again. Although Girlfriends ended without a season finale, Joan eventually does find love and I want to assume she lives happily ever after.
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