The Baby Mama

This is going to be short because I don’t want to indulge too much of an opinion on this issue but the misconceptions I hear about "Baby Mamas" tend to be insanely false.I must say that unlike many I sympathize with the Baby Mama…I repeat…I sympathize with the baby mama for the following reasons:

(1)  Baby Mama—The title

I absolutely abhor the name “Baby Mama” because of the negative connotation that comes with this title. However there is nothing wrong with a woman who choose to have a child and not dispose of a life or give that life up for adoption. Although I am pro-choice and I am not being judgmental by no means, society is way too hard on the babymama’s selflessness; she knows that the road may be tough and that she may struggle but a potential life is worth more than a little hardship. When you think of a baby mother you immediately think of a neck rolling, money hungry sapphire but that is not the case. There are a lot of decent women out there who happen to be someone’s baby mother but still holds her own in the realm of a career or financial independence. What a lot of woman need to understand is that being a baby mama does not define who you are as a mother and a person; its just a distasteful title that should not be tolerated.

(2)  A baby mama’s intention are to bind themselves to a man is not necessarily true

For some women loving a man can make you do some crazy things. While men are thinking in the “right now,” women are thinking forever which can falsely lead a woman to believe she can keep a man by bringing a child into this world which is completely and utterly wrong. With those intentions a rude awakening is bound to come, but this thought process does not encompass all baby mamas. Some women want nothing to do with their baby fathers. Other women just want their baby father’s to spend time with their child. All in all, not all baby mamas have the intention to trap their men.

(3)  Unconditional Love

The first time I fell in love I experienced a love that was totally different from the love that I felt for my family. The first time I become a mother I am positive that the love will be on another level as well. However there are many women out there who have never experienced real love from a father, mother or even a boyfriend and they believe that motherhood could fill that void. I personally believe if unconditional love is a women’s reason for having a child then that’s her prerogative. It’s her body and her life and a search for love does not make her a bad person or a fool.

I’m sick of the judgments that come along with being a “baby mama.” Not all baby mamas are going to suffer and live horrible lives on welfare. A lot of these women that we degrade with the title of baby mama are our very own independent mothers who made sacrifices without the help of a man so their children could thrive. The same women we degrade as baby mothers are getting their degrees, working full time jobs and maintaining households in spite of their responsibilities. Ultimately I would love to be a part of a generation that is having more bridal showers than baby showers. However the perfect nuclear family is unfortunately not the fate for everyone and being a baby mama is not a death sentence. It’s a chance to be a mother and role model to a child that will seek protection, support and nurture from you and that’s a beautiful thing.