Weddings

I love weddings. Matter fact Im obsessed with weddings. For every little girl its that one day we look forward to, for our whole lives.Weddings sundays on WE TV is definitely my favorite. The first time I heard Monica, Love All Over Me, I knew that would be my wedding song. My fear is that people are more concerned with the wedding than with the idea of spending the rest of your life with the person you love.We spend our whole life savings on one day and when that day is over we are left in debt and unhappy. Which is why when I get married I don't want to lose the true essence of why people have weddings in the first place. I want the love to exude from that alter. I want the audience shedding tears. I want to marry my future husband knowing that we are going to grow older together, fatter together and sicker together but as long as I have that one guy by my side everything is going to be alright. I want to know with or without a wedding our love will perpetuate for years and years to come. That's the true essence of why people have weddings. I was inspired to write this after watching Cynthia from Real Housewives of Atlanta having an emotional episode with the thought of not being able to go on a Honeymoon. For the first time in my life I realized how the idea of a having a "wedding" is overshadowed by the actual vows two people take, "for better or for worst"meaning marriage is not about the wedding or the honeymoon, its about longevity. I don't want to be married to someone and miserable, I want to be married to someone knowing that its because of the love we have for each other that will surmount over any obstacles we may face. I envision not the wedding part of married life, but the actual life. The cooking, the buying of our first house, the children, the sending the children to college, the anniversaries, the aging, the professional elevations as well as the professional down falls, the laughter, the tears, the family dinners and the family vacations, the weekend vacations, the intimacy, the life long companion, the friendship, the ups ,the downs, the highs and the lows. Most people don't see past the fantasy wedding. Personally, if it means marrying the man that I love at city hall I will do it because reciprocated Love is what drives me.